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Leadership-mind that dares to dream

July 26, 2010 Leave a comment

Leadership is not magnetic personality–that can just as well be a glib tongue. It is not making friends and influencing people –that is flattery. Leadership is lifting a person’s vision to higher sights, the raising of a person’s performance to a higher standard, the building of a personality beyond its normal limitations.
-Peter Drucker

Leadership with theories and example


For Winners Winning is an ART (Vol-2)

July 23, 2010 Leave a comment

Use Showmanship to your advantage

Skill of making an artistic performance distinctive, effective and appealing to an audience is nothing but showmanship. If you know your job clearly and can execute it perfectly , you will be successful . If do not know the whole idea at the first stage but you figure out  what to do quickly without ever letting anyone that you didn’t know it exactly in the first place. Then you will be a winner. Showmanship is nothing but perfect timing to hide or to show off your real self.

Act like you know what you are doing

Most people won’t jump into a swimming pool until they know how to swim. Winners do not hesitate to jump into the middle of the swimming pool and then figure out how to swim and then swim using excellent form even if they never swam before. Winners are always adventurous. Without any hesitation they dive into new new work arena just to prove themselves. People only grow and develop when they perform something new, something untried, something venturesome.

Showing charisma

Charisma is the power to attract and influence other people. It can be very much natural or it can be groomed. You can act charismatic without being charismatic to the core of your self. Other people create impression of you based on how you act, regardless of how you may think of yourself .

Here are the ingredients that leads to be charismatic to other people.

1. Show  No Tenseness: Charismatic people look poised, calm and in control in every situation. To act calm you have to feel calm, for that take a deep breath anytime you feel less than calm, or hold your hand in the same position  you hold them when you feel extremely proud of yourself.

2. Dare to show off: If you are adventurous and you have taken a risk which no ordinary man would take then dare to show it to people that you are a risk taker with a sportive spirit.

3. Act confident: Acting charismatically confident is like being pregnant, either you are pregnant or you are not. Tentative words do not exist in their dictionary.

4. Express Ideas knowing you are right: People make right or wrong opinions about an idea, which is very much personal to them. So everybody has got an opportunity to say something about a topic. Being confident, willing to stick up and staying calm make it very easy for a person acting charismatic to present his ideas as right.

5. Act Positive: Winners always think positively even if they are in a difficult situation. “I can do it” attitude remains a super imposed attitude for what ever they do. Their attitude and approach towards a situation makes them different from the crowd.

En-cash your positive attitudes

Negative attitudes leads to negative results. If you expect failure, you will taste failure.

Do’s and don’ts in a business behavior

Attire that matters

Always making people feel ultra special

Categories: Self Help

For Winners Winning is an ART

July 23, 2010 Leave a comment

People skills , and not the technical competence , separate Winners from losers in their business carrier. What we mean by people skill is mainly interpersonal communication skill. In this article we will discuss about “making a fantastic  first impression“.

With every new meeting, you are evaluated and a new impression upon you is created. First impression continues for long and becomes a base for future rapport building. So in your business carrier or social life making a first impression great is definitely important.

To be on time

It’s great to be on time always, but it’s important to maintain time when it’s your first meeting. Reaching early is much better than reaching late and giving an excuse. Mind it the person you are meeting for the first time is no way interested in your good excuses.

Be cool & confident

Staying cool and confident makes the whole atmosphere cool and at ease. The person you are meeting shall also feel comfortable in taking to you.

Presenting the self appropriately

The person you are meeting for the first time does not know you. For him/her your personality means the outer personality. The way she/he talks, the kind of attire, style of language she/he speaks, these things matter a lot. You need not to look like a model, but one must look presentable. Starting with the dress you wear- it should be according to the occasion. If it is a business meeting then a formal corporate attire, if is a social meeting then you have to be more culture specific. Remember You will be remembered the way you carry your self.

Be Courteous and Attentive

Show your best behaviour.You can not bargain for less. Simple courtesies attract attention and makes a good impression of the  person you are. Another important thing is people will take interest in you at the rate you are attentive towards them. So be attentive

A smile costs nothing

Smile and the world will smile. A bright makes the atmosphere easy to talk. But do not take it too far, you may not be taken seriously.

Wear an individuality that suits the person opposite to you

In this regard there is a rule one can follow i:e covertly mirroring at least two classes of behaviour: 1> Body language and 2> vocal style. Body language mirroring is simple and quick to follow. Like sit , move, walk , gesture and holding the head the same way the other person holding. Along with this  body language mirroring includes mirroring the other persons volume, speed or rate of talking and choice of word. This technique of Michael W. Mercer( authour- How Winners Do It) works wonderfully because of the simple fact that that, human beings crave to be around people who seem similar to themselves.

You have just a few seconds to make a good first impression and it’s almost impossible ever to change it. So it’s worth giving each new encounter your best shot. Much of what you need to do to make a good impression is common sense. But with a little extra thought and preparation, you can sharpen your intuitive style and make every first impression not just good but fantastic.

Categories: Self Help

Winning attitude as a strategic move

July 23, 2010 Leave a comment

Fear Factor

In majority of cases we do not win because we have convinced ourselves we can not win. Mostly for FEAR of failure or FEAR of success. Fear limits us. The word fear  can be seen as False Evidence Appearing Real. It creates road blocks and stumbling blocks and lead us into self-defeating behavior, which in turn lead to complete immobilization. Fear keeps us from trying, and if we do not try we never get beyond where we are now. Fear erodes our self -esteem, corrupts our self-confidence and over time convinces us that we are looser. We can take charge of ourselves and our lives. And once we take charge, we can be, do and have anything we want.Positive mental Attitude (PMA)We are rich because we are born with incredible minds. We each have as standard operating equipment 18 billion brain cells. They ask only for direction. To use our minds, we only have to tell them where we want to go, what we want to achieve. If we really know what we want, our minds can take us from where we are to where we want to be.We know that the human mind has two basic parts– the conscious and the sub-conscious. The conscious determines what, the sub-conscious figures out how. Great thinking attracts great results. Mediocre thinking attracts mediocre results.The mind can think and go anywhere it wants to go. The mind can figure out where you are and take you where you want to be. All we have to do is to know what our goals are. Goals are like magnets. They pulls us towards them. Goals are great but by themselves they can be undirected. So to have a purpose is necessary. When we have a clear purpose , we won’t have time for negativity.Focusing our energy Focusing our energy in a single direction can work for us. If we want something and we keep our mind focused on getting it , we will eventually achieve it. Our belief determines our action , and our action determines our results. Better feedback from our results generally improves our attitude and future new results. But first we have to believe. That is why visualization is important. There we we see the picture of our desired future in our mind’s eye. It’s important, when we first introduced to visualization, we must understand to visualize completely. Since we won’t  always be visualizing some specific goal, it’s important that we create a number of master visualization that allows us to grow , develop and flourish in every area of our life: be it social, financial, mental or spiritual. There are some procedures and steps that let us focus our energy in a very constructive way. Like relaxing the body in the first step, then opening the inner eye to the stage of imagination, using past successful experiences, start with end result in your mind and at last closing your imagination  in a relaxing and inspiring way.

 You WIN or you LOOSE in a particular situation, it doesn’t matter and that can’t brand you a winner or looser, if you are clear about your GOAL, you know what you want to do with your knowledge, idea and experience and you work for it, you can WIN and you will WIN a large slice of life.

Categories: Self Help